Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Goodbye, McDowell

I promised some people i love a blog - so here it is...

Very rarely in life have I sensed that I was about to turn a corner. A change coming. A new chapter about to be written. But tomorrow is one of those days. I rented a Budget rental truck today; all of my earthly belongings are in boxes on my bedroom floor; and I have said a lot of goodbyes this week. Tomorrow I move to Flint, Michigan and am moving in with my sister's family. And for the first time in my life, I'm leaving behind a community, a ministry, and friends with a very strong sense that I'll never be back. I mean, I'll visit, sure. I'll come back for hiking or for catching up with friends here in West Virginia. But I'm definitely leaving. And that is weird. I thought I'd be ready. Instead, I'm just emotional. And numb, all at the same time.

Goodbye, beautiful mountains, whose golden leaves take my breath away every October...

Goodbye, winding mountain trails, your paths have given me incredible time alone and with God

Goodbye, train tracks 35 feet from my house whose brakes squeal so loudly in the middle of important conversations that I can't hear my own thoughts, let alone others...I won't really miss you much...

Goodbye, Blankenships and Wallaces, Wilsons and Heeres, Hammonds, Kristen, and Candi...your homes are warm and comforting and good, much like yourselves.

Goodbye, McDowell County...I love how much you value the relationship more than the task...you have changed me.

Hello, Flint.

Monday, August 31, 2009

ode to Oregon

after a week of backpacking in Oregon, i feel thankful. thankful enough to write a poem in OR's behalf...

swaying pine trees circle 'round the lake
hiking up and down your mounts is no piece of cake
i will miss your snow-capped peaks and raging rivers
remembered time in your forest still make me shiver(s)

with love to Oregon,
from Merilee. :)



Thursday, August 6, 2009

Summer fun-tivities

My friend Calli called me up the other day to invite me to a fiddler's convention. A fiddler's convention! Count me in!

The music was sweet, the festivities fun, and the pork sandwiches greasy. Here's to bluegrass fiddlin' and good times with friends!





Thursday, June 4, 2009

"Get the *** out of the way!"

It's a rare thing indeed to be sworn at. I have to admit it takes me by surprise every time. So today, when I was dropping a book off at a teen's house (which he accidently left in my vehicle) and his grandpa yelled those words at me, I didn't know what to do. Well, actually, I did know to do something. I moved my vehicle (I was unknowingly blocking a bus from turning around in the street and that's why grandpa got angry).

And then I let grandpa go by too (without looking him in the eye because i was a little unnerved).

And then I told the teen that it was okay. And he said, "He gets angry real easy. He always says stuff like that."

I can't imagine growing up in a house where you get verbally abused for accidently doing something that was not ideal. It was a window into this young kid's life.

And now I'm left feeling really bad for this kid. And grateful for my parents' kindness. And with hope for how God might show his kindness to a 14 year-old boy through me.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

update on hp scam

For all 6 of you faithful blog readers, here's an update on my ink cartridge situation. i had a nice little chat with 'Bailey' - an HP online technical support person. I think they give all the tech people that name (i've had multiple conversations with 'Bailey'). And there's no way around this dilema - I had to buy new ink cartridges. $122. ouch.

And then, the quality of my printing was poor, so after much problem-solving and cleaning of my own, Bailey told me that my printerheads were expired too. Nice. I could still print, but the quality would remain low until i purchased new printerheads. $100. double ouch.

It had been 4 years since I had received the printer, so I can understand how things like printer heads just get worn out. It's just bad timing. And next time, I'll make sure to use up the ink before it expires. Buyer beware, huh?

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

ink cartrige scam

So, I'm just wondering if this has happened to anyone else: your printer stops working suddenly because the ink cartridges have expired. Wait, though...they still have plenty of ink in them! But because there's an expired date on the cartridge that the computer found out about (proof that Dwight Schrute was right and computers are smarter than people), it can no longer print. Ridiculous. I think that HP is running an subtle scam to force scrupulous people who don't use a lot of ink to spend more money on ink supplies.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Seasonal Confusion Disorder

The grass is green, the trees are blooming yellow and white and red...but I can't see them because everything is covered in snow. And I'm concerned that the earth might be suffering from a serious disease: Seasonal Confusional Disorder (SCD for abbrev. lovers out there). How can Spring do this to me, to us? Does it know that it probably killed the cherries that I absolutely look forward to every June? Oh, Spring...you'll have to work hard to redeem yourself from this one...

Sunday, April 5, 2009

3 cheers for Spring!

It's warm and sunny in West Virginia - so here's some cheers on Spring's behalf:
-to an incredible 80 degree day today
-to feeling motivated to clean my house (like washing my coal-dusty living room curtains)
-to Ultimate Frisbee with some friends on top of a mountain
-to listening to songs on my mp3 player in A-Z order (i never know what's next)...right now I'm on the 'c's
-to 7-up and freshly squeezed lime
-to Resurrection Sunday next weekend!

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

ah nuts

so i was on the appalachian trail this past weekend, and did a fair bit of walking....over the hills and through the woods, but not to grandma's house. :)

i stayed at a shelter in the middle of nowhere and a nice wind/rain storm came up during the night. but i awoke to a peaceful morning. nice. when i put on my shoes to start hiking again, i found a little surprise: 4-5 nuts stored away in my left shoe. apparently, some little squirrel or furry rodent decided to dry their stash of food in my smelly shoes. not where i would store food....but i'm glad my shoes can be some creature's food pantry...as long as they don't become their bathroom as well.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

looking back

i don't know why i haven't blogged in a month...sorry 'bout that...

this week, i'm attending a conference on entrepreneurship. i'm getting some new curriculum, meeting some fellow entrepreneurship-oreinted people, and enjoying the break from the ordinary work week. it's been good.

at several moments this week, i've had this thought - i love what i do in west virginia. you know when you've been doing something long enough that the questions and fears and worries and struggles and frustrations you had when you started just aren't there any more? and you're not as concerned about getting it perfect, cuz you know that 90% is just showing up (thanks to randy wallace for that jewel of a quote). and you're confident in the One who has been with you all along. that's kinda where i am.

it's nice to have roots somewhere. 5 years isn't that long to live somewhere, but it sure does make me realize that you live 5 years of life one day at a time.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Highlights

Favorite moments from the day:
  1. Realizing my dog is as big as I am when he stood next to me on his hind legs, put his paws on the fence, and tried licking my face.
  2. A great conversation with a student I've known for years. He lives in my neighborhood and called me to talk about Jesus. Does it get any better than that?
  3. Washing dishes + fun, loud music = a good time
  4. Facebook conversation with an old friend (and I mean old...junior high crush old...)
  5. Laughing with (and at) teens I work with who eat wheat thins with icecream and string cheese. Obviously, they have no tastebuds. :)

It's been a good day, in my opinion.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Appalachia on primetime

Last weekend, ABC network aired a 20/20 special entitled: "Children of the mountains." Filmed in rural Kentucky, the show chronicled families and their struggles in modern day Appalachian towns. It told the stories of several children growing up in dysfunctional families, and who are trying to make a future for themselves. Set amidst the background of poverty and despair, their stories are true and gritty. They're the kind of stories that are echoed all around me in McDowell County, W.V.

In some instances, films or books or documentaries on Appalachian border on extremism (i.e. "let's find the dirtiest, grubbiest, bare-footed kids or the crazy man on the road or the snake handling church and then we'll take their pictures and talk about how poor and dysfunctional people there are" etc.). But I kinda feel like this show differed from that. Taking the vantage point of a child or teen, they show the effects of poverty, as well as its causes. It emphasis the beauty and hurt that engulfs the region of our nation. It's worth checking out if you've ever wondered about what it might look or feel like to live in the heart of rural Appalachia. Here's the link to the written story, and there's a full length video of the entire 1 hour program accessible on this site as well.
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Story?id=6865077&page=1

Monday, February 16, 2009

Train Ride

While I was in India...(I may intro a lot of my subsequent blogs like this to get a bunch of stories off of my chest, just so you all know...)

Melissa and I had just left Kolkata and were traveling by train to Agra (going to see the Taj Mahal and other palaces, forts, etc.). It so happened that we had recently seen the movie Slumdog Millionaire. In fact, Melissa just blogged about this movie and her reflections on it, check out her blog at http://www.melissahayward.com/ for her honest reaction to it. The images and faces of children in the movie, their suffering, and the painful reality that it wasn't just a movie still swirled in my head as we sat on the train for a 22 hour ride across the country.

I rode all night, trying my best to sleep amidst the sound of the engine and the strange surroundings. In the morning, I awoke to several things: the sun gleaming through the bars in the window, the chai wallah's voice ringing out his call for morning tea, and two eunuchs passing through. I had just got down from my sleeping area and was sitting quietly on a bench when they approached. In India, the blessing of a eunuch is valued, and the curse even more greatly feared. They are known to show up at weddings or births, pronounce a blessing, and then ask for money. Typically, they dress in a sari (traditional women's clothing). They also beg or prostitute for money and can be seen as aggressive and demanding.

I'll admit, I was a bit nervous - I didn't know what to expect (and I had just woken up too!) One of them asked aggressively for money, while standing 1 inch away from my face. They danced slightly in the aisle, and clapped their hands together lightly in a repetitive manner. I shook my head no. Then, he/she moved on to the passenger next to me. With more insistence, they danced, clapped, and motioned to the passenger for money. When the passenger hesitated, the eunuch began to lift up the skirt of his sari. The passenger quickly gave them money, and the eunuchs moved on to the next train car.

A little while later, a blind man stumbled through our passenger car. He said little. He held out his hand. His eyes were lifeless. Somebody put a rupee into his hand. Scenes from Slumdog Millionaire flashed through my mind. I looked down. How did this man became blind? What happened to him when he was little? Why? He stayed only for a brief moment and then shuffled to the next car.

Later on in the day (still on the train), I was listening to the Caedmon's Call's album, Share the Well, whose songs, styles, and themes center on India. And on Hope. And I was overwhelmed. I pulled my scarf over my head and face as the tears rolled down. Suffering and pain took on a face that day. The face of blind helplessness. The caked-on make-up and piercing eyes of the eunuch. The boy who swept the train floor on his hands and knees. The two little girls asking for our leftover breakfast crumbs. If the suffering of humanity became a flood surrounding me that day, then hope also became a song. A song that entertained the possibility of swallowing all hurt. All pain. A song of immense implications. A song that delivered what it promised. Not only for me, but for the world. For India. For the eunuch. For the blind. For the poor. For the forgotten.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Coming back

I've realized that traveling back home to West Virginia after spending time away is hard for me. It's difficult to return after the holidays or great hiking trips or weekend visits with my family. It's just difficult. I haven't really figured out how to come back, or better said, how to want to come back. It's weird, though. I love living in West Virginia; I love the mountains; I love my community; I love the ministry I work with...but it's still hard for me to come back each time. I'm just being honest...

So, after spending a month in India and extended time before and after the trip with my family, needless to say, it was hard to come back to W.V. Perhaps it was the fullness of relationships that I experienced while I was away. Every day spent with Melissa and her friends, each day full of interactions with others, incredibly rich conversations with people, eating and laughing over countless meals with others...it was just so full emotionally and relationally for me. In contrast to living alone, it was radically different and satisfying. Good for my heart. I am still savoring it.

I was pondering all of this as I drove into my alley-way in McDowell County, West Virginia on Monday evening. It had been a long time since I walked into my little white house. I expected silence and emptiness. But I was not expecting notes and food and little trinkets of love from friends in W.V. Several of my friends and co-workers had left these little goodies on my kitchen counter to welcome me back. "We missed you, Merilee," the notes said. It was incredible. It made my heart sing. And then today, I stopped by the home of a family who runs a ministry in the county. The wife did a happy dance when she saw me and gave me a big hug. The daughter was about to run and jump on me when someone got in her way and she had to settle for a simple hug instead. Unexpected welcomes. Unexpected joy. Perhaps there is a fullness of relationships here that I have yet to mine or explore. Perhaps my heart can learn to drink deeply not only in India, but also in the hills of West Virginia.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Kolkata

I arrived in Kolkata Sunday night, and have been staying at the flat of a friend of Melissa's. As I sit here, I can hear the sounds of Kolkata outside. Horns blaring, engines reving, people shouting - in lots of ways it so closely resembles every other Indian city that I've experienced. It just seems the same. But, I think, under the surface, this city is different.

Here's some of the differences that I know of so far:
  1. This city is crowded. It's not the most populous city of India (Bombay wins that distinction with 17+ million people) but it is still the most congested. Wikipedia said that it's road space, with population density factored in, is 6%. Bombay has 17% road space and Delhi has 23%.
  2. When Melissa and I flew into Kolkata and caught a taxi to her friend's apartment, the air seemed heavy, thick and dark. I don't think it was just the smog (although I think that was a large part of it!) It seems like this city has a feeling of heaviness, or despair. Listening to some of my friends' reflection on the struggles of this city has also helped shed light on the clear struggles and issues of the people they know here.
  3. Some of the other cities I've visited have a definite 'Western' flavor to them. A few years ago, I visited Bangalore and Chennai. Now, in comparision, they seem much more 'metro' and blended with Eastern and Western values. Kolkata is more traditional. I've seen fewer women wearing western dress (jeans and tops) and more wearing the long shirts and drapped scarves. This is a place of stronger Indian values.
  4. Similarily, Kolkata just isn't a tourist spot like other Indian cities are. There are places in the city where you would find more westerners shopping, but not as many and not as many 'attractions' either. I've asked my friends where I can go to really see the city, and there just aren't monuments or places or attractions. The city is the streets, the small shops, and the 15 million people dwelling here...

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Melissa's Goodbyes

I knew when I was planning this trip that I would be stepping into another world. Not just the Indian world, with all of its particular disctinctions (like speedy rickshaw drivers in insane traffic in noise-ridden cities) but also the world belonging to Melissa for the past year. The past 3 days in Mumbai have been an upclose glimpse into her world, her work, her friendships, her life...and also a time of watching her say goodbye to many of those things.

Her closet in her room is full of goodbye gifts from friends...A beautiful pashmina scarf, a salwar suit from her co-workers, the complete 3-season set of 'arrested development - her favorite tv show...I sense the fullness of her time here. I've seen the love and tears on the faces of her friends. They spoke words of affirmation and deeply rooted tenderness for her. In a year of living here, Melissa has lived it fully and lived it well.

And now she's moving on. And it is a privilege to be a small part of this transition.

Today (in 3 hours) we leave for Nepal. Seeing Kathmandu, backpacking in the Himalayans near Pokhara, watching the sun rise over the highest peaks in the world - that is what's in store for us for the next week and a half.

Goodbye, Mumbai. Hello, Nepal.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Safe and Sound

Today I woke up in Mumbai, India. The long-awaited adventure is finally coming alive. :) Yesterday was full of air travel, lots of sitting, airline food, falling asleep under a comfy airline blanket, waiting, watching movies on the plane, finishing a good book...and now a day and a half later, I'm sitting in Melissa's apartment in Mumbai.
The weather is warm, but not hot. A perfect 80 degrees. Apparently January is a great time to visit. The crows woke me up this morning - they're constantly making noise. I hear children playing and vendors hawking food and someone sweeping outside right now. I have yet to venure outside, but I think I will soon. There's much to experience...

Friday, January 2, 2009

Tomorrow

My to-do list today:
-pack for India
-make sure my banks know I'll be overseas for a month
-get some $ from the bank
-call my friend Lacy to see how my dog is doing without me
-copy my passport
-pick up some last minute toiletries at the store
-play dolls with my nieces

....and then I leave for the airport tomorrow!