Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Highlights

Favorite moments from the day:
  1. Realizing my dog is as big as I am when he stood next to me on his hind legs, put his paws on the fence, and tried licking my face.
  2. A great conversation with a student I've known for years. He lives in my neighborhood and called me to talk about Jesus. Does it get any better than that?
  3. Washing dishes + fun, loud music = a good time
  4. Facebook conversation with an old friend (and I mean old...junior high crush old...)
  5. Laughing with (and at) teens I work with who eat wheat thins with icecream and string cheese. Obviously, they have no tastebuds. :)

It's been a good day, in my opinion.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Appalachia on primetime

Last weekend, ABC network aired a 20/20 special entitled: "Children of the mountains." Filmed in rural Kentucky, the show chronicled families and their struggles in modern day Appalachian towns. It told the stories of several children growing up in dysfunctional families, and who are trying to make a future for themselves. Set amidst the background of poverty and despair, their stories are true and gritty. They're the kind of stories that are echoed all around me in McDowell County, W.V.

In some instances, films or books or documentaries on Appalachian border on extremism (i.e. "let's find the dirtiest, grubbiest, bare-footed kids or the crazy man on the road or the snake handling church and then we'll take their pictures and talk about how poor and dysfunctional people there are" etc.). But I kinda feel like this show differed from that. Taking the vantage point of a child or teen, they show the effects of poverty, as well as its causes. It emphasis the beauty and hurt that engulfs the region of our nation. It's worth checking out if you've ever wondered about what it might look or feel like to live in the heart of rural Appalachia. Here's the link to the written story, and there's a full length video of the entire 1 hour program accessible on this site as well.
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Story?id=6865077&page=1

Monday, February 16, 2009

Train Ride

While I was in India...(I may intro a lot of my subsequent blogs like this to get a bunch of stories off of my chest, just so you all know...)

Melissa and I had just left Kolkata and were traveling by train to Agra (going to see the Taj Mahal and other palaces, forts, etc.). It so happened that we had recently seen the movie Slumdog Millionaire. In fact, Melissa just blogged about this movie and her reflections on it, check out her blog at http://www.melissahayward.com/ for her honest reaction to it. The images and faces of children in the movie, their suffering, and the painful reality that it wasn't just a movie still swirled in my head as we sat on the train for a 22 hour ride across the country.

I rode all night, trying my best to sleep amidst the sound of the engine and the strange surroundings. In the morning, I awoke to several things: the sun gleaming through the bars in the window, the chai wallah's voice ringing out his call for morning tea, and two eunuchs passing through. I had just got down from my sleeping area and was sitting quietly on a bench when they approached. In India, the blessing of a eunuch is valued, and the curse even more greatly feared. They are known to show up at weddings or births, pronounce a blessing, and then ask for money. Typically, they dress in a sari (traditional women's clothing). They also beg or prostitute for money and can be seen as aggressive and demanding.

I'll admit, I was a bit nervous - I didn't know what to expect (and I had just woken up too!) One of them asked aggressively for money, while standing 1 inch away from my face. They danced slightly in the aisle, and clapped their hands together lightly in a repetitive manner. I shook my head no. Then, he/she moved on to the passenger next to me. With more insistence, they danced, clapped, and motioned to the passenger for money. When the passenger hesitated, the eunuch began to lift up the skirt of his sari. The passenger quickly gave them money, and the eunuchs moved on to the next train car.

A little while later, a blind man stumbled through our passenger car. He said little. He held out his hand. His eyes were lifeless. Somebody put a rupee into his hand. Scenes from Slumdog Millionaire flashed through my mind. I looked down. How did this man became blind? What happened to him when he was little? Why? He stayed only for a brief moment and then shuffled to the next car.

Later on in the day (still on the train), I was listening to the Caedmon's Call's album, Share the Well, whose songs, styles, and themes center on India. And on Hope. And I was overwhelmed. I pulled my scarf over my head and face as the tears rolled down. Suffering and pain took on a face that day. The face of blind helplessness. The caked-on make-up and piercing eyes of the eunuch. The boy who swept the train floor on his hands and knees. The two little girls asking for our leftover breakfast crumbs. If the suffering of humanity became a flood surrounding me that day, then hope also became a song. A song that entertained the possibility of swallowing all hurt. All pain. A song of immense implications. A song that delivered what it promised. Not only for me, but for the world. For India. For the eunuch. For the blind. For the poor. For the forgotten.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Coming back

I've realized that traveling back home to West Virginia after spending time away is hard for me. It's difficult to return after the holidays or great hiking trips or weekend visits with my family. It's just difficult. I haven't really figured out how to come back, or better said, how to want to come back. It's weird, though. I love living in West Virginia; I love the mountains; I love my community; I love the ministry I work with...but it's still hard for me to come back each time. I'm just being honest...

So, after spending a month in India and extended time before and after the trip with my family, needless to say, it was hard to come back to W.V. Perhaps it was the fullness of relationships that I experienced while I was away. Every day spent with Melissa and her friends, each day full of interactions with others, incredibly rich conversations with people, eating and laughing over countless meals with others...it was just so full emotionally and relationally for me. In contrast to living alone, it was radically different and satisfying. Good for my heart. I am still savoring it.

I was pondering all of this as I drove into my alley-way in McDowell County, West Virginia on Monday evening. It had been a long time since I walked into my little white house. I expected silence and emptiness. But I was not expecting notes and food and little trinkets of love from friends in W.V. Several of my friends and co-workers had left these little goodies on my kitchen counter to welcome me back. "We missed you, Merilee," the notes said. It was incredible. It made my heart sing. And then today, I stopped by the home of a family who runs a ministry in the county. The wife did a happy dance when she saw me and gave me a big hug. The daughter was about to run and jump on me when someone got in her way and she had to settle for a simple hug instead. Unexpected welcomes. Unexpected joy. Perhaps there is a fullness of relationships here that I have yet to mine or explore. Perhaps my heart can learn to drink deeply not only in India, but also in the hills of West Virginia.